As soon as your wife finds out she's pregnant, her world begins to change. Each day brings something new, a new hope, fear, or feeling. Sometimes her life seems to change as rapidly as the transformation that is taking place within her. Yet, it can take first-time-dads a good nine months for the change to catch up to them. Each of your days will continue to seem the same, but keep showing your wife that you're interest in the pregnancy and fatherhood; it will provide comfort and reaffirm your love for her and the baby. You became a team when you got married; reassure her with thoughts, words, and actions that you’re still a team through this new adventure.
Labor and delivery can be the most intense, exciting, amazing moment in your life, and because your wife will be doing all the heavy lifting, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Men want to fix things and make it better, and in these moments it seems there is little a Dad can do. But don’t let that make you feel powerless, that was never God’s intent.
Instead, God has already entrusted you with great power and authority through Jesus. The most important role you play in delivery is praying for your wife, that’s where your gift of fixing will come in handy the most. If something isn’t how you expected, pray. If your wife is afraid, pray. The throne room of Heaven is where all these problems get fixed, and your wife might need you to do the work for her.
By being rooted firmly in God, your strength and peace provide a comforting oasis for your wife to rest in. If you don’t feel much strength and peace, turn your worries over to God, each and every scenario, and leave them in His Hands.
Remember, your words have great power as well. Encouraging statements go 100x farther during labor, so encourage your wife. Remind her of the amazing attributes that made you fall in love with her how those will make her the most incredible mom on the planet. Remember, the baby will be in your arms before you know it. Labor will be an unforgettable experience, and, believe it or not, your wife will absolutely treasure the memory of how you support her through it.
P.S. You already have what it takes to be an amazing Dad. God is the greatest Dad, and He can guide you at every turn and bend in the road; He will always be with you. The more you know God’s heart, the more you can demonstrate it to your family and the better you will lead. You may want to do it all, but that’s something only God can do. Follow after Him closely; as you walk righteously, your family will be blessed (Prov. 20:7).
Pregnancy can be the most exciting, yet equally terrifying event in a woman's life! After reading Supernatural Childbirth, by Jackie Mize, I was inspired to believe that God had amazing plans for me AND my birth experience! Instead of pain, I expected peace. Instead of fear, I trusted God would surround and empower me. God has done amazing things throughout all of my births, and I share my supernatural childbirth testimonies here! I wrote Re:Birth to inspire other mother's to apply their faith to their births, and open the book with the following letter. I hope it encourages you!
Do not worry; you were created to be a mom! If you have not conceived yet, God has a wonderful plan. After all, it was God’s idea to have children in the beginning. He is not hiding that blessing from you. God has been present at every birth in history, and He cannot wait to be a part of yours!
You might feel powerless in the midst of the changes that surround you, but do not be deceived; God has given you more power than you know. God’s dominion rests on His children, and that intimidates Satan. Satan may try to make you feel like a victim of pregnancy symptoms or fill you with a fear of birth, but do not worry. God has a better plan. It will take faith to bring what is in Heaven down to earth, but it has been done many times before and will be done again.
Remember, Jesus took the punishment for sin. That means that when you belong to Him, God will never try to punish you for sins or Eve’s sin. God is not causing pain, sickness or disease; instead, He paid the highest price for our healing and redemption. Satan is causing chaos and trying to place the blame on God; it is time for that to end.
Through Jesus’s sacrifice, our lives radically change and so can birth. Pregnancy was created to multiply God’s image and love, but the fall of man distorted those things. Let’s re-examine birth in the Bible through the lens of the completed sacrifice at Cavalry and search for God’s heart in it together.
is a writer & tired homeschooling mom of five.